We have come together at the invitation of
___________ to celebrate the uniting in Christian love--their lives and hearts. This is
possible because of the love God has created in them, through Jesus Christ.
Jesus said, "I am come that they might have life and
that they might have it more abundantly." This abundant life, for many people, is an
impossible dream, yet God wants us all to have this abundant life and proved His love for
us by giving His Son that we might have this life.
Another way that God provides for this "full"
life is creating those who will love us. ___________ such a one in ___________ Their
hearts and spirit were drawn together before today by the Lord of all creation. Two lives
are not united by ceremony, but only in the power, love and grace of God.
___________ and ___________are here to publicly declare
that because of Jesus Christ's love; they too can truly love one another. As God
demonstrated His love in Jesus, our Lord ___________ and ___________ will demonstrate this
God given love by giving themselves to one another and one for the other.
They have not reached this place alone, each has been given
life by their parents. These who gave to them life, love, provision, are and will be, a
vital part in their continued lives. Their love has borne fruit in __________ and
___________ Love and respect for these will continue as they grow in their love made
possible by their parents.
Pastor -- Who then has prepared this woman for marriage to
this man? ( or "Who giveth this woman to be married to this man?")
Father of Bride -- "Her family and I have prepared her
for marriage." ( or Father or Bride's escort replies, "Her family and I
Pastor -- I sometimes counsel with the couple and ask them
to write what they wish to say in their vows one to another, expressing their love and
commitment to each other. They learn this and I allow them to express it without too much
if any prompting. One service I had, the girl did not remember what she wanted to say so
she blurted out "Jim, I have forgotten what I wanted to say to you - I'm afraid - but
I do love you deeply - with my whole heart!" - the wedding service was successful!
Pastor to Bride -- A ring is more than a symbol of your
marriage. It is a seal of the vow you have given to one another! The circle of the ring
is, as far as human eye can see, a perfect circle--with no beginning or end--so God too
has perfect love for you and wants you to love one another in His grace--never, never
ending. This ring is made of precious metal. You also are precious in God's sight and now
in the love of (groom) ___________. When you are absent one from another, the presence of
the ring reminds you to be faithful to and to fulfill your vow to (groom) ___________.
Rings have historically been the sign of authority--used to
seal documents and proclamations, you now accept this authority in your life. (See memo
sheet for sealing statement.)
Pastor to Groom -- This ring is a seal of ____________'s
vow to you. She presents this to you as a token of her submission to you in Jesus Christ.
This is a symbol of leadership and privilege. God has placed you as the head of the
family. You must lead in worship, works and fellowship. As the weaker vessel she depends
upon you for strength.
Charge the couple to respond to the Scripture of 1 Peter 3
and Ephesians 5.
Pastor to Groom -- __________, are you now prepared to love
(Bride)___________ as Christ loved the church, are you willing to love, cherish, provide,
protect her, in sickness and sorrow--joyfully, etc. according to the Word of God will you
cherish and love her as your wife until death separates you? (Answer "I will).
Pastor to Bride -- ___________, are you prepared to be
subject to (Groom) ___________ as described in the Word of God? As your husband will you
respect him, love him, etc. (Answer, "I will").
Perhaps ask the best man to pray for the Groom and Maid of
Honor to pray for the Bride.
Pastor closes in prayer